When we arrived home that afternoon, Chris’ dad called out of the blue and he shared the news with him. Chris went on to call a friend from church and then spoke with his mom and brother. I realized I needed to postpone a meeting I had for work that night. So, I called my boss and tearfully told her the news. That was the only call I could make, so I drafted an email and sent it to my closest friends, family and some friends from work. Typing the email made the reality of the situation sink in. But, it was important for me to reach out and let others in, especially because I wanted to roll in a ball in the middle of my bed under all the covers and stay there.
It went like this:
As most of you know, I am almost 5 months pregnant with our first baby. We had our second ultrasound today of our little girl, Malia June. She has a strong heartbeat, is an active mover, and I’m pretty sure she waved at us.
However, we found out that during her first month she didn’t develop a brain (a condition called anencephaly).
We were told that Malia will live until delivery and possibly for a day, or so, afterward.
Please be in prayer for Chris and myself, as we are very sad beyond words. Pray that God would bind us together and to Himself. We are looking forward to meeting our little girl in December or January. Please be in prayer for little Malia. Pray for a miracle, if God wills. And pray that we love her well as she grows.
We are in complete shock at this point, but will spend the next few days processing and praying. When you think of us, please lift us up in prayer (if you are the fasting-type, we invite you to fast on our behalf as we enter into this difficult season).
When you see us, feel free to hug us, smile at us, ask us how we are doing, or simply tell us your latest joke. We also would love encouraging Scriptures. Please feel free to pass this news along to others that you know or your church family, as we are too grieved at this point to call friends and tell them this news.
Love, Chris, Hope & Malia
That was the beginning of an outpouring of love from our friends and family (and their friends and family, and their friends’ friends’ families…). We received hundreds of emails, messages, and phone calls in the next few days as we grieved in a way we had never done before. It is so amazing to live life alongside others.