Malia Baby Photo“Will I still be a mom?” I asked my husband one evening. This was one of my first questions when I found out our first baby would likely die soon after birth.

If I have no child to hold, to rock to sleep, to read to, to tickle and cuddle with, to teach how to ride a bike or do addition – am I still a mom?

We decided yes. I am a mom. And I will remain one. I will be the mother of all my children, whether they live or die.  Malia is our daughter. And she will be recognized as so every day for the rest of our lives.

Our culture in the United States values able-bodied, able-brained, and living children more than other children. But, we believe that God defines humanity in a different way. We believe that he creates a child from day 1 of conception. Their life actually begins on that day. Psalm 139:13 says “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” And even though it might be awkward for others to hear how many children I have, when they count heads in the back of my station wagon someday, they will learn as I did, moms are moms–from the moment her baby is growing in the womb, a mom will be a mom for the rest of her life, even if she outlives her children.


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  1. “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh.
    Amen! you are indeed a mom and Chris is indeed a dad. 1 + 1 = 3(in this case) I have no doubt in the love you have shown and would have shared with you’re sweet daughter as a mom and dad. Chris, my brother, you too are a father. Hope, my sister, you are a mom!
    Thank you for sharing with us your joys, heartaches and the way our Jesus comforts in the valley. Grace and and mercy be upon your home…..john d

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